Talk of the Drive Thru

 A couple months ago my daughter and I again risked being in the car with my husband. We’ve learned to try to avoid this as it rarely ends well. And if he’s driving our lives are at risk with his road rage. But in this case he was driving. We stopped at Arby’s drive through. My daughter told him her order from the back seat. Though he’s avoiding acceptance he is hard of hearing with any white noise present so he didn’t hear her. She repeated it very loudly at which point he got drastically and dramatically offended screaming at her that she didn’t need to be a bitch and turning around towards her arm raised as if he was going to smack her. I immediately intervened telling him to stop. She defended herself telling him he couldn’t hear and at that point did tell him he was deaf. Like his every mature move he proceeded to scream at her that no wonder she didn’t have a fucking boyfriend and that he’d “heard” about her reputation and added some insult to that implying she was a slut. She burst into tears and asked him how he could say stuff like that to his own daughter. How could he insult her like that. I may be able to let stuff wash over me but attack my daughter?! Not even. As a side note not that it matters to his reprehensible verbal abuse the girl has kissed boys at parties. She’s 16. She’s also a virgin. Anyways he received volume three fold as I launched the “how dare you” speech he deserved. My daughter and I were so furious we both cried. And being at the drive thru did not hold us back. Not only did he do irreparable harm to his daughter and any hope of a relationship with her but I bet we were the talk of that Arby’s for a couple days. As with any abusive narcissist he apologized, said he was wrong, didn’t mean it, wouldn’t do it again etc. But when no one patted him on the back right away he said fuck you... but then we already knew he didn’t mean it. When he brought it up later I accepted no excuse he had for it so again he said fuck you. But again I knew that he was disingenuous from the start. As a side note we took my daughter to the drive in for her birthday last month she was in a 2nd car with friends and my husband and I in another. It was a positive moment out of time - it went well and I enjoyed his company. I almost thought when we got home something positive would happen but he didn’t show interest sexually. To be fair neither did I - I’m afraid to put myself out there and get hurt. So the moment slipped away but at least the night happened.