I dont even know where to begin on this one. Hes been verbally abusive on and off since Tennessee. Then has showed anger because I havent been interested in sex...after being berated daily for being lazy, or unappreciative etc.. He came home one day angry. I dont even know what hi reason was. He yelled at me that he was sick of me. It. Everything. I retreated and stayed quiet. He went on to his dating sites and texting one of the chicks hes hung out with regularly behind my back. The end result is he stated that "all bets were off" and that he was going to see whoever he wanted and didnt give a shit what I did. After all these years of being alone and loyal I finally said fine. I let him know I would also being going on dating sites and putting my profile out there. And I did. And as typical hypocritical bs the next day he was irate. He was upset and didnt like my profile out there. He changed his mind about the 'open' marriage...even though hes been dating on these sites for years. I didnt agree though I did delete my profile off one website - not for him but for me. he said he was going to go off all of them...but he didnt go off any at that point. This was towards the end of June. On July 6 2021 he did it - he went too far. Things had been fine for a few days. No fights. Some tension as he would come home and barely speak but calm. On July 4th we went and watched fireworks just the two of us and it went well. Then came July 6th. The rude and strange texts started first thing in the morning. He harassed me all day sending 25 texts that were rude and accusatory as if I were the cheater not him. He sent 30 texts altogether. He called 11 times - I didnt answer. I texted him back 8 on sentence texts and two emojis - all non confrontational and all non inflammatory. When I got home I said Hi to him and then went straight to my room locking the door. Within a couple minutes he started yelling through the door telling me to come out. That I had to talk to him. That I was pissing him off. i kept telling him that I just wanted peace. To leave me alone. He started yelling fuck you and then picked my lock and shove the door open. I was on my bed and asked him why he would pick my lock and barge in and that he had no right to just barge in my door. He said he had a right to be in there if he wanted and he could fucking open the door if he wanted and locking it pisses him off. I replied that I was not going to fight with him and headed to the bathroom but he ran after me and shoved his arm and foot in the door before I could get it closed. I said "leave me alone" and then I repeated "out" several times but he refused. He tried to trap me by blocking the door way and holding the door but I dodged under one of his arms and ran out the door then out the bedroom door while he chased me. I closed the bedroom door behind me but again he put his arm in the doorway to stop me this time getting his arm hit by the door when I tried to close it. I ran to the bathroom and made it in and locked the door. He continued to yell at me and I didn't answer. After he kept yelling I just responded to leave me alone. I called my son to hurry home - not to involve him but I knew his presence would deter my husband from continuing to bully, chase and scare me. Then my "husband" said "alright Jenn you wanna play this game I'm calling 911 and you're going to jail. Fuck you.". And then he called them. Attempting to use the police for vengence. He even told the 911 operator that he caught me cheating and texting a guy and that's what started the whole argument. Which is a lie. He couldn't catch me if he tried or used a PI - because I'm not and never have. He judges me on his standards. Projects his actions on me. Anyways the police showed up. Our son was home by then. The truth made sense and only by my grace did HE not go to jail. The video would have sealed his fate. The only reason I didn't is because my son didn't want him to go to jail. And my daughter was home by then. Neither wanted the financial problems that would follow either. I agreed on that part. And in all the times he's been out of control and scary I have always stayed conscious of the damage that can heap on us. My son kept saying we cant afford it. When we were waiting for police my husband kept trying to get me to agree to a story...a lie. To keep "us" out of jail. He also kept going off and getting pissy every minute but my son who is 20 was getting through to him to stop. When the police came I told the truth. Mostly. I didn't show the video. That would have put him in jail. The officer I spoke with asked repeatedly if I was intimidated - I was but i didn't confirm it. I was crying. My husband told them I was faking and playing victim. His behavior is frightening. And upsetting. He then lied to the police also telling them he "caught me texting and cheating". Later he claimed this is because he saw a TikTok I made about me texting some guy and missing texting him. Problem with that is I never made any such TikTok. My videos are either joke...or my truth. Often both. But never outright lies and since I never missed texting some guy I wouldn't have made a video about it. But he also fails to bring up all the videos about things he's done. He wants to think its wrong for me to share my story...if he didn't want that story out there then he shouldn't have done the things he did. As a side note I did make a TikTok joke about big feet and he has gone on about it over and over about how its about me giving head to a guy with a big dong - and it literally says nothing like that and is only a slightly raunchy joke on the old wives tale of big feet meaning...well big dong. The caption is "when he shows up with 13.5 shoe size" with the song "this the part where I'm gonna get hurt". Its pretty funny. And anyways its old - I made it while he had a whole girlfriend and a couple other side pieces so I don't know what business it is of his anyways - other than he's using it to project his cheating behavior on me so he can validate his disgusting behavior. So anyways after all the drama of the police and after they left having told him to stay away from me I went to my room. I came out briefly and heard him on the phone outside. I listened briefly but long enough to hear him going on and on about his girlfriend Shonnie from last year. And how much he liked her. And how she tore me a new ass on the phone. (as if). And him and his sister laughed about it. A lot. And they went on about the girlfriend. Disgusting. And his sister - toxic nasty person I don't need to ever be around again. Blocked her on Facebook. Her life is just what she projects - old, alone, broke, and dependent on her parents at 60. So after this debacle of a night my husband has...yet again...made one of his cycles complete and is now back in a real hoover attach. Heard it all before. He did the begging and crying. And he's on the whole therapy kick. Swears he's realized what he's done. I'm sure he'll get over it eventually. He always does. Calls me hateful when I state my feelings about what he's done and says if I'm gonna be that way he's not sure he wants to be with me. Fine - I knew that already based on all the abuse, lies and cheating. I'm also tired of being told how his whole family doesn't like me. Fine. His parents made 3 toxic dysfunctional children who all have hade massive problems - a brother whose done time for selling his girlfriends 13 yr old daughter for meth and who had nude pictures of her and him together. A sister whose obnoxious and loud divorced years ago owing the IRS 750k so now moved back to her parents small town so they could put stuff in their name for her since she cant own anything. And the icing on the cake my abusive lying cheating "husband". It was never necessary to be around toxic people and even less so now. So I'll no longer be a part of it. My family wasn't good to me but they don't laugh and cackle with toxic "support". They don't even denigrate the person putting me through all this - my husband. They address concern for my experience and say they are sorry I'm going through it. And that I shouldn't have to . But they don't support hate or toxic behaviors. Like his sister. He says he knows that so isn't taking any of her "advice" but since they had such belittling behavior together over his girlfriend I find that suspicious. And the manipulation has been here before. He's playing high stakes this time. Time will tell what his end game is. In the interim at least the abuse has abated for a few days...for now. But all of it is just too far.
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