Instigating

 Yeah so he bought me flowers. I told him they were beautiful and thanked him. I was in the middle of cooking dinner at the stove. A few minutes later he says “I guess I don’t get a kiss tonight”. So I kissed him. 

Fast forward post dinner watching a movie. Just sitting on the couch together. He’s nodding off which is fine- I never get mad that he falls asleep- he’s a working man. 40 minutes in and he suddenly says “how come you never want to touch me?”. Well I have touched him the past few days - not a ton but I have. I also kissed him earlier and the past couple days. And I stated that. We’ve hugged. But he can’t just sit there in peace with each other. And now he’s made it uncomfortable. But it slides. Then he goes out on the deck to smoke and I’m still on the couch. A commercial comes on and I go on my phone 20 seconds then put my phone down when commercial ends. He walks in and says “don’t put your phone down for me” and I reply “I’m not the commercial is over”. So he sits down. Then a few minutes later “are you still texting anyone” “on meetme?”. That was enough for me. I replied that I was tired of the same question - he’s asked it repeatedly and I was the first one to delete not just the apps but my profile..and I barely used any of those dumb sites - I tried them cuz he’s been hooking up on them for years. Anyways he’s like “why you blowing up” and I’m like “I’m not blowing up at all just because you want to nitpick all night and then blame me for responding”. I Then I went to my room. He yelled “way to be grateful for the flowers as He went to his room and violently slammed the door. Later he knocked. I answered. Again he starts in about how he’s scared to ask a question - I said we’ve already been over all this multiple times. I also told him I just wanted to sit together in peace. Then he starts again with why don’t you touch me - same old answer - well you’ve slept with other women and it’s hard but I’m getting better and trying. Which made him mad - “yeah go with that” then stomped off again. I wasn’t mad just irritated so it chilled after that - both of us separate again.