Three Strikes

 Myself my daughter and unfortunately my husband are out of town together for my daughters softball tournament. So many incidents in a short time but a few are real standouts. Yesterday we checked out downtown Nashville. I was driving with my girl beside me and my husband - her dad - in the back seat. An open air party bus with all college age girls pulled up next to us at a stop light whooping and hollering having a good crazy time. My daughter and I smiled about it and gave a little wave. My husband however was a whole different story. He started literally yelling out his window “yeah!” “Git it” and laughing loudly and interacting with them. Screaming “I love your job” . Then one shook her ass and he screamed “I love it” “ I love it” you have the greatest job . Laughing and hollering. I muttered under my breath how I hate what a scum he is but not so he or my girl could hear. When we pulled away my girl told him that wasn’t right. He objected. She told him it was gross. And disgusting with his wife and daughter in the car especially. I chimed in to say it was disrespectful and inappropriate. He said that was bullshit and said we were hypocrites because we took pics with two male strippers in Vegas 18 months ago. And comparing that was absurd because for one that was a sales pitch in a hall you couldn’t avoid them in. And we ignored them every time just smiling and walking by but not suckered in. When we finally did it’s because my half brother Robbie insisted and talked us into it - not because we encouraged or interacted. So anyways after being called out on his bs he sulked all night. Which is better than dealing with him.

In another incident I was trying to get some time by myself away from his craziness. He’s looked every day on tagged/meetme for someone to hook up with. He texted the broad he’s fucked before asking her to hit him up. Every time I turned there he was. He literally stalks me. I went to the restroom and didn’t see him when I came out. Admittedly I didn’t hang around looking and went off on my own for a whole hour! God forbid. He called 7 times and texted 3. I wasn’t in service for part of it but it popped up when I got in. The next day he proceeded to yell at me for 20 min in the car about how I do nothing. Nothing for him. He’s never gonna have sex with me. Doesn’t want it. I should go find other men. We’re separated but living together. The only reason I stayed was because I was afraid he’d be happy with someone else. I’m a bitch. Always a bitch. Lazy. He’s going to do what he wants. He’s going to find women. Blah blah. I was calm polite and not mean. I did ask how he could live in a rage all the time and that it seemed like a crummy way to live but I didn’t use any tone. So yeah there was that.

This morning at 1130 our older son texted me telling me about his camping trip. We exchanged texts back n forth for an hour. I was telling another parent about my son texting that he was riding horses. My husbands perked up to listen and asked if I was talking about our son so I said yeah. 10 min later he went to the car and come to find out he then texted our son that he’d heard he was camping. In itself there’s nothing wrong with that. However a half hour later he started telling me what our son was doing and I said yeah he’d been texting me (geez he KNEW this already !). This pissed him off so he called me a bitch in front of the other parent and stomped off. I didn’t respond or acknowledge it.. And come to find out he was making derogatory lies about us to our son. Saying all we’ve done is shop at the mall- we went once. The 2nd time we only went to the wax museum attached to the mall. He also told him we were going a 3rd time which is a lie and we have never said that or even wanted to! Then it was the “you know how women are” and “I’m outnumbered” bs. That’s just 3. Not all.