Chamaleons

 Another little side that is yesterday was my group every Wednesday evening I have a zoom meeting with a narcissistic support group. Occasionally I’ll leave dinner out for him but most of the time that’s the one night of the week I kind of leave him to fend for himself. I took out some pulled pork and put it in the microwave to be defrosted I didn’t know what time he get home so I just sort of left it there. When he got home he went outside for a while and I started in with my group which he really shouldn’t interrupt but he does frequently so he came in and asked me if I was cooking dinner. I replied no but that I’d left some pulled pork in the microwave that just needs to be defrosted not cooked so it would only take him a few minutes. He left the room and then came back to the door and yelled through the door at me about not putting in effort and how it was bullshit. Oh I didn’t hear anything for a bit after that but I did hear him come stomping out after he’s eaten and throw his dishes violently into the sink. At the same time I heard my son come up the stairs into the room and even through the door I could hear the change in his demeanor. It was like he was completely unaffected and OK. The Chamaeleon changes his spots frequently and easily. And another little interesting incident the other day and my son lightly reprimanded him for something inappropriate he said. He used to derogatory term forgetting that we have the guest who is black. I didn’t use the term directly to him he was upstairs bitching about being the only person that worked blah blah blah and it wasn’t overheard But it could’ve been and it was unnecessary and inappropriate. So my son told him he needed to watch saying things like that. We all sort of discussed it without any real judgment or rancor and I was like yeah it’s funny but that is one thing that shouldn’t do. To which he responded in a low tone close to me so that my son wouldn’t hear that I didn’t need to fucking say anything. It was said with the tone viciousness viciousness to it.  I wasn’t even actually talking to him directly it was somewhat of a blanket statement about not saying things like that. It appears the Chamaeleon can change his spots even when he’s not hiding.