The Low Bar

So right now my husband is future faking and hoovering me to manipulate me yet again. It’s not working if course - 5 times too many. Last night we were watching tv - in his new but done before pretense he is not staying in his room like he has. Out of the blue he asks why my Facebook friends list is private. Now everything on my FB has been public and always has but three days ago I noticed he set his list to private. He was also stalking some followers I have on Instagram which are irrelevant - I don’t even talk to them they follow me from my TikTok account. Anyways I answer because yours is. He proceeded to argue about how mine was private before his and that’s why he changed his. Until I pointed out how not long ago he drilled me about friends on there - again irrelevant. It’s always just him projecting his own behavior. As he went on about it I said no more but finally got up and said I’m going to my room for a few minutes. Which I did. Then I came back out. We watched the show then he fell asleep and we went to our separate bedrooms. Today was no better. Went to the grocery store and all was fine. Then when we went to pay I didn’t have my debit card so he gave me his. I asked the pin - he used to have a different one and since I’ve used his card maybe once in the last year I didn’t know his. He made a face. Rolled his eyes. Said it’s the same as yours while demeaning me and speaking ina hard to describe insulting tone. I responded “ all I did was ask you for your pin you don’t need to talk to me like that”. His response was to call me a bitch so I tossed his card back to him and finished with the groceries. When we got to the car I told him he did not need to talk to me that way nor would I tolerate it as unacceptable”. His response was to call me a bitch. Tell me how I need to look in the mirror. That I’m crazy. I ended up being reactive to all this. Not in my usual bland way but by calling him out on lying. He went into a whole personality attack against me. I told him I am sticking to just the way you spoke to me in the store. So he proceeded to tell me what the clerk and the lady behind us thought of me - which he has no ideal since they said nothing. He thinks everyone is on his side from a look. While I don’t even think about what’s in someone’s head. Anyways it’s a reality check. At one point he told me I needed to put someone else’s dick in me. And that I should get out of his house. And how he’s staying cuz I can’t afford it. And I said well I can with the alimony. Yep. A real deterioration. Soon to be the end. The narcissist who goads you and mistreats you and then when you finally say enough - tries to turn it around and make out like because you reacted you’re crazy. All he had to do was answer kindly. In fact that’s what I told him. He’s set the bar so incredibly low the only standard is just someone who speaks kindly