Ugh

 Just for my own memory I wanted to document what is in many ways a minor annoyance but sometimes these loom big with undertones. My son was here and I had left the room briefly when I came back my husband was talking in a very low tone to him and standing only a foot away . He’s a loud person who rarely gets that close. He was giving our son money which was fine but I didn’t say anything even though he was being very quiet about it. No biggy right. Shortly after my son mentioned the amount of sugar my husband was adding to his tea. I turned to my son and said he goes through a pound a week. So my husband makes this bshh pshh whisper mimic sound and then accused me if whispering a secret. I was like so...you were whispering to our son when I came in and I wasn’t whispering I was just telling him you use sugar. Yet somehow it turned to how he wasn’t whispering or being quiet when he gave the money he was just telling him something - the son backed him on this. But I did the EXACT same thing and they twisted it. It’s so annoying. When did these boys fall prey to treating their dad like a victim? Maybe they can turn to this victim when they have needs other than pot.

The other thing is the cheating lying manipulative husband has decided he has all these positive plans for his summer - HE wants to camp and HE wants to dirtbike. And the boys- whom he grasping back onto when it’s time to let them go he wants them to camp and ride with us. But it’s all about what HE wants to do. And I told him so. And when I said maybe we could make plans for something I wanted to do...he got bent outta shape. Cuz he’s supposed to get recognition for all this turned around goodness he thinks he’s got.

Lastly my son and I were discussing my husband brothers perverted past and my son said it was sick and that at least like his dad had normal problems- ugh. I told him there’s nothing normal about cheating with 3 women at the same time and he shouldn’t normalize that. Their dad is just big on pressing money he doesn’t have and buying them pot and talking dope with them for the good buddy system. I suppose they’ll always be attracted to his grossness- til they have kids and finally see the light