Happy Anniversary

Its that time of year again...the time when my husband celebrates our anniversary. Typically with obligatory roses and a date - with someone else. The day was yesterday so he was at work and my daughter and I spent the day together. Shortly after receiving a happy anniversary text from his parents he remembered to tell me lol. In a spurt of originality he bought me a neat rose submersed in a vase and a small plant. It feels like he did it because he should not because he wanted to. Id give up that for a calm happy daily life. But the lead into this week exemplifies his usual standard lack of care and lack of awareness of the date. Culminating Thursday night when he informed me he is going to go out and go out drinking and spend a lot of money and just wanted me to be prepared. I really didnt say anything. When he got paid friday he took out 250.00 cash so apparently plans to be generous and get a nice hotel for whomever hes going out with. In the first 10 years I think we drank alcohol together maybe twice a year ...usually on an occasion. Housewarming party...some out of town wrestling tournament at a hotel with a bunch of parents..family reunion. But very occasional. In the last two years hes become obsessed with the idea of going out drinking. He also drinks at home every weekend and never did that before. He acts as if I changed..but of course he cant identify his own inconsistencies. We did drink before a concert two years ago...and he treated me like I was his wing man while he bought younger women shots and chatted them up. And hes always leered at women everywhere we go. So Im not so inclined to party with him...and it wasn't a factor until recently. And its not about going with me - hes not interested unless there's a lot of people (ie women) around and its busy. So anyways hes always talking about wanting to go out drinking - not just go out. Last weekend I was going to suggest 1up which is a pinball bar. I’ve tried to suggest going out that isn't just drinking. But before I could he started going on about going somewhere with a guy from work to drink. So whatever. The guy is like 22...my husband also thinks at 51 he needs a crotch rocket motorcycle. In addition to his other problems he isnt ageing gracefully either. Anyways he also talks a lot to see if he can get a reaction. It doesnt work. But we"ll see if he follows through with his big plans...it would be rude of him to blow his date off now wouldnt it?!