Dumb and Dumber

Life has trolled along relatively uneventfully. Not because my husband has changed...but because I have..at least to an extent. I no longer invest in emotionally charged reactionary events. I still have the compulsion to be aware but it has become more about policing myself rather than my husband. I am vigilant against old habits that might allow me to be duped into old traps. Last week he recorded some late night porn on tv...noticed but not addressed by me. I know hes also used incognito and google+ to view porn at least several times a week - his idea of "better". I am steadfast in my residency in the spare room. Hes been relatively nice and feeds me the I love you's like the false salve theyve always been. So I thought I'd fuck with him like a bug under a microscope to test his squirm factor..and as a reminder to myself. I restricted content on our phone plan this morning. Predictably when he got home from work he was a prick. My son had baseball practice again so I thought he might decide to go again. I told my daughter she had to stay home and thought we'd go out to dinner while my boy practiced . Heck I even planned on Twin Peaks...I care enough to give him the rope to hang our marriage with! But he walked in pissed and told my daughter he wanted his quiet time and didnt want to deal with her. Then told me all he ever does is work and he sure as fuck doesnt want to go back into town for dinner. I did mention that since thanksgiving hes pulled 3 1/2 weeks of unemployment so he doesnt need to walk in the door irate about having to work - and asked if he just had a bad day. He told me I was acting like he hadnt worked all of january. My girl also told him my stepdad was flying she and I to Montana to see them this summer...my boys have been there but she hasnt...hasnt even met him. His response was a sour "must be nice all I do is work". Well thanks I replied..."your parents want to take you to Hawaii in March and all Ive ever said is dont miss the opportunity..it will be wonderful - so thanks for sending that back around” No worries...bye I said as I left with my son...and my daughter. When we got home at 10 he was no longer in a sour mood. Again oh so predictably...because he'd spent his quiet time watching his porn flick, jacking off,  and re-enabling his content on his phone. The movie i knew because when I left it was on start..and when I got back it was on start over. And I saw the phone account enabled. I didnt say much...only told him that I knew about the porn and that I knew he was being deceptive about "trying" and was doing what he always does which is lying better. Just told him I wanted him to know I was aware..and that he should be too. And that I knew the reason for his sour mood was his initial frustration at not being able to access porn. And his mood improvement was due to him solving the problem and having a veritable porn feast ( didnt use that word though ) while I was gone. End of "talk" so to speak..so no fight, non- confrontational. I just gave him the facts, the consequences, and then stepped away. I have been dumb...before but no more. And in fact he is much dumber!