Marriage to a douchebag!

So the story goes...we are stable but I know it can only be temporary. A couple weeks ago our team had a baseball tournament. The first game there was a rule issue. I told my husband, the coach. He didny want to address it. He was in a negative angry attitude anyways. He wasn't talking to his players and I admit I became irritated with him.The same pitching violation came up in the 2nd game and I showed him the rule in writing. He took the umps word though and so I dropped it. He again came up to me between innings and told me he wasn't going to object so I said fine. The next inning he came up again to tell me I was wrong and I told him "quit talking to me about it". And yes I was irritated but I didn't yell or argue. As he walked into the dugout he raised his arm and flipped me off! This pretty much put us on non speaking terms. After losing the game he left the field abruptly...didn't talk to his players, his sons or me. He was also rude to one players grandpa. This led to a lovely modern text argument as I texted him and told him his behavior was inappropriate and embarrassing. Of course his response was that I'm a queen bitch and fuck you. The next day I took my younger son to his other teams game. My older boy and another player/friend was with me. Our team had another game as well I texted my husband and asked him to pick up the 2 boys on the way so they would be with him for warm ups. He was extremely rude about it as in " so now I have to fucking stop there too?". When my son was done with his game we headed over to the other game. I kept quiet and a low profile. The next day more games. I adhered to my low profile. The only time I spoke was when my husband was substituting a player...I keep book so I asked him who he was subbing as he walked by..he tells me "just calm down, Ill get it to you' accompanied by pushing his hands down. I wasn't in the least bit "uncalm"..all I did was ask! Keep in mind that all this behavior is very public and in front of player parents. The next game my younger son was playing with his younger team at the same time on fields that were back to back with our team. My husband didn't walk over with me...of course he walked to the field with a tall blonde he'd been ogling all year. I gave the book to another parent and chose to just watch both games. My husbands teams game ended first so I was sitting in the bleachers watching my younger son play. My older boy came and sat with me...but my husband didnt. The tall blonde was standing near the on deck batters ring. When my son was in the ring my husband went up to him and the blonde stepped back about 10 feet. Now here is where predictability comes in...I knew what he was up to. As soon as my son went up to bat my husband stepped back..you guessed it...10 feet so that he was right beside her. He proceeded to strike up a conversation with her...laughing and smiling for 15 minutes with her. He never spoke to me. Surprisingly we didn't fight about the day..not then anyways. I've learned to keep my mouth shut if I don't want to get screamed at and bullied. And since we were in separate cars not on the way home. What brought it to a head was the next morning when I got up and he freaked and shoved his phone down...said he was looking at something inappropriate on it..i said let me see...and he said no and shut it down. Says it was porn...but how do I know? Probably some secret email. This caused a total meltdown that brought all the weekends filthy laundry out. He said he was done with me and I agreed. I did bring up the tall blonde and his response was "I will bring her home and fuck her right here". Iv'e been sleeping in the spare room since. And yes hes done the whole apology, iv'e been an ass, i love you, ill do anything speech since then...but things can never go back to what they used to be. I did forget to say that at our 3rd game the same rule violation came up...this time it was the other team calling US on it though..and it was upheld! Turns out the director got wind of the other teams getting away with it and said no more of that! Yes I was right...but I never said I told you so. Anyways our argument lasted a couple hours...my husband told me to get the fuck out of his house...he thinks he has that right because he works and I don't. He fights with evil intent...to wound and win. I never retaliate in the same manner...I address his behavior and my feelings but I don't turn around and say I'm going to "fuck" someone. I married a douchebag...I don't know if he was and hid it well or if hes just become one but either way thats what I have now. Ive shelved it for now because I cant deal with it constantly...I have to take time to enjoy life -- and I do. But the rope is very short.