Sniper!

Although I find myself blase about it my husband has now taken the sniper attack mode. Tiny verbal digs throughout the day centered around sex of course. A man on tv ...even just a commercial..with a shirt off elicits "bet you wanna watch that". Comments about my lack of sexual desire abound as well...which he wont listen to when I try to communicate its there but need nurturing. Then he tries counteractive behavior by reaching to hold my hand or telling me he loves me...and I do it. The love and desire come back. I'm also afraid of him. I never know what will invoke the abuse. We dont talk...I wont initiate because it would evolve into an attack on my humanity. He doesn't talk because he doesnt want to hear it. Zero communication equals zero resolution. And I find it hard. Since he vowed respect in our marriage he has visited personal ads for sex, gone to.sex arcade, lied about getting off work early, lied about where he was and is now back to staying up half the night recording and watching porn and cruising his secret email under  his alter ego user name "JD" (yes I know that).. Interestingly