To Be or Not to Be....Honest.

So far so good..I recently heard an analogy that struck home...I am waiting for the right moment to share it with my husband..I am sure that moment will come! It is normal and acceptable to have a glass of wine with dinner...but an alcoholic cant do it. So next time hes defending occasional use of porn I will offer this tidbit of logic...porn is his alcohol...one drink and hes hooked again and becomes progressively worse. So to tie in to the title..yesterday he received a text "hi, its Marilyn, remember me? Im no longer posting on Backpage and am sticking to my client list. Rebook your sensual 38dd bodyrub for a special price and the bodyslide of your life. Looking forward to hearing from you again." Now I should say I intercepted his contact with her months ago.... He was inquiring and still in preliminary question stage...I believed he hadnt followed through for a few reasons...one she was ugly, looked much older than me,, and was overweight...not his style. Nor did he have NIGHTLY availability..he never went anywhere on his own in that time frame. Of course I have since discovered he will lie about what time he gets off work and where he is so I now doubt that believable but I cant be sure either way. What bothers me is he hasnt mentioned the unsolicited text. We have gone over the stay together rule of not lying...this includes hiding things which is tantamount to dishonesty. Yet here he is...comfortably hiding it because he doesnt want to get in "trouble". And I think my idea that he has standards is misplaced. Ill give him another day to be honest...or not to be.