Gaslighting

I thought I’d share a real proper story that describes abusive gaslighting within an actual example with a real conversation that took place. So I was selling my sons car for him for an amount that my son agreed he was willing to take - its his car he paid for it. The asking price was 4000 but I was willing to take less so that I can get my son back his money. And since it’s a vehicle with a salvage title it’s not like I’m going to get a huge amount of interest. So I was talking to my husband about it and explaining he needed to not drive it to work it’s not his car and is for sale and I had some people that were coming to look at it and he said that it needed brakes and then somehow the conversation evolved into the asking price and he said he wouldn’t take less than 3800 and I said well if someone comes by with a little less I’m not going to Pass it up at which point he stated “fine then I’m not doing fucking shit to that car I’m not working on it if that’s all you’re going to take for it.”  I said  whatever and walked away. The next morning some people came out to look at the car and he was outside and I told him I had people coming to look at it and he said something about working on it and I said well I figured that it didn’t matter since you weren’t going to work on it anyways and he says “I said I was going to do the brakes and you told me not to work on it” and I looked at him and said “ that did not happen- you literally screamed at me that if I was only going to take 3500 for it you weren’t going to work on it or do the brakes”.and then I walked away again. But this is what constitutes gaslighting - making a production out of something and then trying to divert it to the other person.  unfortunately for him and fortunately for me it no longer works it has zero effect on me I don’t buy it and it was obvious that he realized that because he didn’t try to further his ridiculous argument in the first place. This is a subtle form of abuse and that one time for a long time it made me question myself. But no longer once you figure out gaslighting the narcissist is in front of failure.