Tidbits

 Those pesky details - they always come to light. Though he hasn’t seen the skank he was fucking he didn’t completely cut things off with her either. If he had she wouldn’t have been comfortable messaging him on Facebook. And he messaged her that he missed her and wanted to see her. She said he needed to “do something” but she wouldn’t make him or pressure him and she thought she had a future with him. First offending detail: I asked him if she thought he was going to leave me for her. He replied “probably”. So I asked “ were you” and he said “I don’t know”.  Yet now he really thinks we get past that? He had no other depth to share. Detail 2: She thought she was his girlfriend. However weeks after starting with her he dated another gal he knew from highschool. Detail 3: well into this supposed girlfriend status he was messaging two other women trying to get going with them. And he was trying it with me too. I understand something is seriously wrong with him but find it incredibly difficult to surmise that HE can’t see something is seriously wrong. It’s really sad in some ways but since he can’t feel his shortcomings sympathy isn’t really warranted. On another note the gal from highschool he dated - he subsequently liked a picture on her fb profile. I texted him “I saw you liked Kristie’s picture 🤣🤣”. He later asked “ why’d you text that”. I said well she didn’t want to be my fb friend. He said yeah she’s that way. I said oh I don’t think so. I think it’s cuz you dated. He says no we didn’t. I said yes you did while I was in Montana with our kids. He even offered to take her out on a date again - thats what he called in when he messaged her. There was more denial mixed in but he finally says well we just went to dinner. I said that’s a date and you didn’t tell me about it. He says “see this is why I can’t deal with you cuz everything you say is just to start drama”. Huh? Apparently cheating lying and dating behind your wife’s back is not really starting drama? No ownership. No maturity. In fact he doesn’t give two shits about me. That’s what acceptance will mean for me. But buyer beware.