Head in the Sand

 It seems the head in the sand approach is my husbands direction with this affair. Pretend it didn’t happen - at least to my face. Avoid taking responsibility or even apologizing for it after promising it would never happen again. And in his self prophecy of never being happy once he gets what he says he wants he still remains an unhappy person. 

So we aren’t fighting, he isn’t cheating at the moment but we haven’t talked about IT - and it is humming along like a low engine noise you’re not quite sure of until your motor sputters and dies or explodes. We are treating each other fine and though it’s not new for me to be supportive of him he showed some for me which is new. He says he wants respect, affection, dates and sex. But in getting it doesn’t soak it up or seem to care. He is still interested in porn hub and jerkmate rather than real sex. In fact he’s been on both every single day and night and hasn’t initiated or wanted sex with me - and yet that was his big blame thing and what he told his skank - was that I didn’t take care of his business - what he didn’t tell her is that he failed to take care of MY business - which is more than just in the bedroom. Maybe she was just a handjob blowjob skank that didn’t need more? He said he didn’t want to sit at home and wants to go out ... so I agree and suddenly the going out dries up completely- because going out really was about going to said skanks house not actually going out. So no matter what he receives he’s unhappy. I think because giving is a better opportunity to feel good about yourself and others. Regardless of any psychological condition he’s still aware of right and wrong - it’s why he tries to validate wrongdoing. If you believe in karma every time he goes too far his luck also craps on him. First his car broke down. Now his truck. What would he be doing about his skank if he was still seeing her? Not taking my car lol. Anyways just some random insights into a life he’s wasting by not embracing and sharing positivity. That mindset has to come from within... and is why he escapes every day by being stoned and sinking into porn. Eventually he will have to face his acts and his decision to do things that aren’t in my best interest or his but for now it’s easier to let him keep his head in the sand.