Tupperware Trouble

If I haven't mentioned it my husband and I have had separate rooms a year. A few days ago I was sleeping..it was 530am and not quite time for me to get up for work. Suddenly my door burst open and I woke to "where the fuck is any fucking tupperware?" being yelled at me. " we never have any fucking tupperware. You use it and then leave it outside. Its fucking bullshit". It went on for a bit. No answer from me - when you live with a narcissist you have to be careful with every response, everything you do or say - anything else is an invitation to receive more abuse.
For example....
Saturday we went to see my son at college. Its a 4 hour drive. by the 3rd hour he was on his 10th cigarette. Knowing that any mention would bring a hail of abuse down on my head for 3 hours I resisted any comment, reaction or action. Bur on cigarette 10 I couldnt take it any more. I attempted to crack my window. But the window lock was on  so I couldnt. He asked what I needed my window down for. I'm like " I cant believe you wont let me crack my window if I want to? Whats wrong with you?". His response was that I didnt need my window down. "All my smoke is going out my window. You're not getting any fucking smoke over there. More will go over there if you roll your fucking window down. I'm not having 80mph wind going through the cab just because you want the fucking window down" etc. I am probably under quoting the f bombs. an argument ensued...while peace is lovely it isnt peace if its at the cost of tolerating abusive controlling unreasonable behavior. Again I told him I could not believe he would not "allow" me to crack my own window if I wanted to, that I would never do that (that is blasphemy to a narcissist). His response was to roll my window and his  down completely although it was cold out still with the window lock on so I had no control. This was huge. I did not let it go. Which of course granted me the benefit of being called a bitch. Told to shut the fuck up. That I never fucking let anything go. And on it went. I will NEVER go anywhere with him again.

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