I Need A Vacation

A few days ago my son attended an important college event for his future. I was working so my husband took him to the event several hours away. It was also my husbands birthday. I called him 9 times to say happy birthday but phone service was tough where he was at. I finally texted him happy birthday and also called him and left a message singing happy birthday. I'm never sure any more if I'm being genuine since I know if I don't put forth the effort I will be verbally and emotionally abused. When I got home later that night my son was eager to tell me about his event. My husband was excited also and told him to tell me about it. I gave both of them my attention and enjoyed the report and discussion lasting better than 40 minutes. We wound down and my son went to his room. Seconds later..verbal attack! I didn't give my husband a birthday hello kiss. I said "I'm sorry..I was distracted by your news..I didn't mean to. It wasn't on purpose". His response? You're a bitch. A frigid cold fucking piece of shit bitch. You can cancel my tickets for vacation. I don't want to go with you. I'd rather save my money and go with someone else. I can do better than you. I'm done. You think its all about you, you're a lying cheating fucking bitch I'm sure you're fucking someone else in fact I know you are"...this went on in this vein for another 3 minutes until I finally walked away to my bedroom saying I'm sorry but I don't want to fight with you. I went to bed. An hour later he barged in with more insults. Its interesting that the person thats done or doing the lying, cheating etc invariably accuses the one that hasnt of doing so. My only request when I left for work was that he not be crazy when I returned..and he was. When I declined sexual interest the next night this was all rehashed. At first he supported his words. When I disagreed and said his words did not make me desire sex nor his yelling at me he stated that I verbally abuse him too ..although my worst offense is a sometimes snotty tone. Making his attempt to become a victim concerning. And also a textbook narcissist.  But it degenerated all the same winding down to me stating its time to stop crazy train he rides. Though irritated with the constancy of verbal attacks from left field I didnt muster much anger at him. Vacation should be interesting.