Impasse-able!

Ive been feeling the fallout of my blandness. Out of sorts like at sea with no waves. I recently had a flat tire and in dealing with it hurt a rib joint. The physical toll has dragged me down a bit mentally. My husband continues to strive...for what Im not sure. He has objectified women so long he is immaturely uneducated. He knows its a struggle but doesnt "talk"...so there is no connection. I have become a somewhat lonely person. And yet I am different and confident. Sunday I rose before my husband. Before my feet hit the floor he says "you making coffee?". I do think my irritation was disproportionate but last time he asked he whined about me making it before I took a shower...and didnt get up for an hour after my shower so it could have waited. He does make coffee every weekday...but I dont demand or expect it. Anyways I responded yes I was making coffee...but I definitely had a vocally annoyed tone. He then called me a bitch. I let a few minutes pass then firmly told him I apologized for my shortness...and that he should NOT call me a bitch again - I called him no names. He apologized. Fine. That said he is back at the porn. Less frequently, less vulgar. Google+ pictures..hashtag sexy. A few showtime movies ala Busty Coeds. And I have no hurt feelings. Its a very stale mindset. I dont feel my mate. Its an impasse...stalemate!